Parents Who Raise Huffadh Do This ONE thing Differently
Want your Child to Memorize Quran…Here’s what you need to know!
Every time I sit down with my brother and friend Shaykh Abdul Bary Yahya, I always ask him about his grandmother. He tells me and I feel like I want to know more about this amazing woman. She’s an inspirational human being ma sha Allah. Over 100 years old and when she starts praying Maghrib salah, it goes on till Isha salah. And that’s because she doesn’t recite anything without contemplating it’s meaning. Subhan Allah.
When she prays Qiyam-ul-layl she prays one third of the night with one son, then she wakes up the next one and prays one third of the night with him and so on…
The point of telling you this story is that I’ve a theory about parents who raise huffadh. And if you’re a parent or you aspire to be a parent who gets to raise a haffidh of Quran…listen closely and mark my words!
Parents who raise Huffadh are the ones who pray Qiyam-ul-layl.
I say this because as a parent you need to make an effort. You need to make sure that your child spends quality time learning and memorizing Quran so they grow up to be someone who has a connection with it. If they don’t get attached to it as a child, it becomes difficult to roll that ball in the later stages of life.
In order for your child to be attached to Quran, they need to spend time with it. They need to learn, understand and memorize it.
Just making a schedule or enrolling your kid in a Quran class isn’t going to cut it. You need to build your lives around Quran. Not just your kids but yours too. It might not always be easy but you’ll have to commit with them, make this effort together.
You’ve to go to bed early so they don’t miss out on the Quran class. Wake up early in the morning so they revise their lessons and make it in time for the class.
You miss out on things in your own life so you can help them revise their lesson, memorize a Surah, prepare for an exam or to just simply make sure they get to the class everyday. You do whatever it takes for them to commit to that routine. Because in the end it will all be worth it in sha Allah.
Set Specific Goals
Set measurable and specific goals for your child and stick with them. In general, it takes 3 to 5 years for someone to memorize Quran. There can always be exceptions but usually it takes this much time. Here’s the thing, the younger the child, the easier it is for them to memorize. You child could be 3 or 4 years old and they can memorize Quran at home just by listening to it a few times.
One thing you need to know right away is that, this goal isn’t just for your child. It’s your goal too. Don’t leave it in their hands because they don’t know better but you do.
Start After Fajr
Allah SWT has put barakah in that time. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said ‘O Allah bless my Ummah in its mornings’.
So anybody who is homeschooling their kids or teaching them Quran, make sure to give them an early start in the day. When you delay it and take it to the afternoon, your kid is already exhausted and sleepy. That’s not the time for them to be memorizing Quran. The later it gets the harder it is to focus and memorize. Your brain just shuts down.
Start the schedule after Fajr with a fresh mind. If you want your kid to take a nap let them take a nap before noon after they’ve studied for a few hours.
Dismiss Distractions
Say good bye to distractions. Things like television, mobile, tablets, games…they all need to be far far away from your child when it’s time to learn Quran. Hours and hours go by while we play games or spend time scrolling through apps like Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and YouTube.
Such distractions and productivity killers need to be out of your life and you kids life. You can’t be on the phone all day long and expect you child to refrain from it.
If you’re using a tablet to memorize Quran, delete all other apps from it. Turn off all other notifications. Only keep the Quran and the apps that are facilitating your child in learning Quran.
Talk Virtues of the Quran
Don’t be all strict when it comes to teaching Quran. You can’t force them into learning and more importantly loving the Quran. It doesn’t work that way. Talk to them about the virtues of the Quran. Tell them about the reward that Allah SWT gives to those who learn and memorize the Quran.
Show them the bigger picture, why they need to put in this effort now so they can benefit from it later on. Be their motivation. Give them pep talks every now and then. Make them fall in love with the blessing that is Quran.
Celebrate Little Wins
Set milestones along the way. These Milestones feed into the overall goals you’ve set. Your child’s milestone can be memorizing a Surah, memorizing a Juzz or maybe 5. Whatever works best for you and your child. You could have some kind of point system where your child gets a star for every small achievement that leads to a bigger reward when a certain number of stars are accumulated.
Look, the point is to celebrate little wins. Give them rewards for achieving those milestones, it can be a small party, outing with their friends or even a chocolate.
If you’ve been parenting for sometime you’ll know that a child doesn’t need big rewards to be happy and feel motivated. Children get excited even by little things. That’s the beauty of childhood.
The Schedule Comes First
Life comes at you from different directions but you can’t disrupt your schedule for a dinner party or some downtime with friends. You can’t make plans that effect the schedule. The schedule has to come first.
Just like you don’t travel during school days, you can’t make plans that disrupt the Quran schedule. You hold it sacred.
Enforcing Discipline
Not saying you need to beat them with a stick, there are ways to discipline your child. Sometimes the child is acting out. Sometimes they’re just not in the mood to learn. That doesn’t mean you go easy on them, it means you discipline them if there’s the need for it.
Once again you could use your point system to enforce discipline in your child’s life. Your child might not understand why you’re being strict in that moment but trust me they’ll thank you later.
While you’re on this journey, taking all these steps to help your child memorize Quran, keep making Dua. At times might it’ll get tough, you might feel like giving up but remember the bigger picture. Remind your child of the bigger picture, have tawakkul and keep seeking help from Allah SWT to make this journey easy for you and your child.
In sha Allah you’ll get there and it’s all going to be worth it.
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